by Sabrina Bennardo, LCSW
Fall is a time where mother nature shows off her passion, beauty, colors and power.
The Heart Connection Center invites you to do the same. During this time of harvest, we hope you take the time to appreciate the fruits of your mental, emotional, physical and spiritual labor. What have you succeeded in or accomplished that you are now able to enjoy? What are you proud of and passionate about? What are you grateful for this Autumn? This is a great time of year to display your many colors by honoring your child self – by trick or treating, decorating a pumpkin, dressing in costume for Halloween or jumping in a pile of leaves.
We hope you will harvest all of the fruits or your love and labor.
Along with, perhaps a pumpkin spice latte, or a warm apple cider, we invite you to count your blessings and list everything you are grateful for in a journal or on your notepad app on your iPad or phone.
Consider being mindful of the things around you that you take for granted — your bed, running water, your car, a coffee machine, a toothbrush — and really appreciate them. Think about how you use it or how you benefit. How life would be different without it?
By focusing on how it makes your life better, you appreciate it more – you count your blessings. A toothbrush may add utility to your life, regardless. But only in recognizing that utility can it bring you satisfaction and value. You may also recognize that the object brings you no benefit … that it is just taking space and collecting dust and that you really should be giving it away. Getting rid of “clutter” has the added benefit that it lets you focus your appreciation on the items that really can bring you happiness.
Being thankful can completely transform one’s disposition.
The more we pause to consider the things we have to be grateful for, the more we begin to focus on those things. And the things we focus on, we tend to draw toward ourselves. Therefore, the act of focusing on our blessings tends to bring more blessings into our lives.
Why wait for Thanksgiving to give thanks with your family?
Consider choosing a day of the week or the whole month of November to give thanks in a fun, special and memorable way. Everyone can write gratitude notes and put them in a surprise spot, like a siblings sock drawer or backpack. You can be crafty and create a gratitude tree and have them write what they are grateful for on a leaf made from construction paper. Consider putting a chalkboard in the kitchen and write a daily gratitude. The possibilities of expressing gratitude with your family are endless and you can have fun creating them together.
The best way to teach your children about giving thanks is to be a good example.
Tell them what you are thankful for and make giving thanks part of your daily routine, maybe at mealtime or bedtime. Don’t forget to let your kids know what it is about them that you are thankful for. Even if it is a small thing like putting their dirty socks in the hamper that morning. Before you know it, they’ll be seeing things to be thankful for too. All of this is encouraged to be done with your spouse or partner as well!
When we pause and take the time to be grateful we are also living in the moment. Eckhart Tolle eloquently states in his book, Practicing The Power Of Now, “Realize deeply that the present moment is all that you ever have. Make the Now the primary focus of your life.” Living in the moment and being grateful for it – is a sure path to a peaceful life.
Heart Connection Center is grateful for each opportunity we have to connect with our clients’ stories and journey alongside them to Heal Emotions And Relationships Together. We are grateful to be doing what we love!
We wish you many Fall days filled with friends and family, and the joy of carving a pumpkin, the sweetness of apple pie, the warmth of steamy cider and lot’s to be grateful for!