Get Unstuck From A Relationship Rut From A Couples Therapist

Are you stuck in a relationship rut? It takes effort to keep the romance alive and thriving especially in a long term relationship. Life gets busy. Kids, work, and everything else that we have to do become priority and it can feel like the romance in your relationship is at the bottom of the list. This is when couples can feel like they are living with their roommates. You may stop hanging out together at night and even sleeping in separate bedrooms. Also, couples forget to show affection to their partners during the day. A goodbye hug or kiss has long been forgotten. Here are some tips to bring back the spark in your relationship and increase your physical connection.

Affection: It is important to show each other affection and love throughout the day. This can be a hug to say good morning to your partner or kiss when you come back from work. Also texting your partner a couple of times of day saying you are thinking about them or checking in on how their day is going. Flirty texts can build up the excitement as well!

Date Night: A proper date night that is planned with a reservation or going to do an activity together like an escape room or ax throwing. Dress up for it, look your best like you used when you were dating. Or you can get a hotel room for one night and order room service. Make it fun and sexy!

Learn a new activity together: Ballroom dancing, bridge or canasta, golf or scuba diving! Try activities that push your partner to the limits. I know of a couple who was on the brink of divorce, they decided to learn tango and it saved their marriage!

Compliment your partner. Tell your partner they look great after you see them getting ready in the morning. Or notice their new haircut and tell them how good it looks. Remind them that they are beautiful in your eyes.

Love notes: These can be texts or on paper. Remind your partner that you love them. That you can’t wait to see them when you get home. Let them know you are always thinking of them. Leave these around the house or slip it into their work bag or lunch. This will make you both look forward to seeing each other at the end of the day.

A couple embraces as they walk by the water after overcoming infidelity through Couples Counseling in Boca Raton, FL.

There are many ways you can reignite the spark in your relationship. But it takes effort and time. Both partners need to put in the time and effort to rekindle the flame. If one partner is more withdrawn, then the other partner might have to do more of the work at first. It takes time to rebuild because you need to rebuild the trust. It is easier if you both make a commitment to each other to work on rekindling the spark. If you do try for a while on your own and nothing happens, then maybe it is time to seek professional help from a couples therapist. Follow Heart Connection Center in Boca Raton, FL on Instagram for more tips.

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